How to Discuss Sexuality with My Partner During Pregnancy
Camille Bataillon
Sexologist
Pregnancy is a journey of transformation, encompassing not only your body but also the intimate aspects of your relationship.
Navigating the changes in sexual health and intimacy during this time can be challenging, yet it opens the door to a deeper connection and understanding between you and your partner.
Here's how you, as expecting moms, can approach these shifts with confidence, knowledge, and openness.
What You Should Know
During pregnancy, discussions about sexual health often get sidelined, overshadowed by myths, discomfort, and cultural taboos.
It's not easy to talk about sex during pregnancy if you haven't been accustomed to discussing it in your relationship. However, if you're both motivated, you can start today.
These discussions can greatly strengthen your emotional connection and comfort during this period. Understanding the effects of pregnancy on your libido, discovering safe and comfortable positions, and addressing overall sexual well-being are crucial.
Safety Guidelines
It's important to have regular moments of communication within the couple to gently address any issues that may arise and maintain this openness and connection between you.
Don't wait until you have a laundry list of things to unpack before discussing them; otherwise, there's a risk that the other person may feel overwhelmed. If you want to be heard and understood, stay precise.
Three Tips for Initiating a Conversation (this applies to both of you)
Set aside time for dialogue: Before initiating communication, ensure that both parties agree upon a dedicated time to discuss.
Set an intention: When engaging in conversation, establish a clear intention. What is the goal or purpose of this discussion?
Deliver just one message in your conversation and stick to the essentials: What is the key message you want to convey? Keeping to a key message helps keep communication clear. Avoid getting lost in multiple explanations, examples, or grievances. One moment to speak equals one key message.
Three Important Elements for Talking About Sex
Mindset: Stay motivated for open discussion, practice non-judgment, and avoid comparisons.
Vulnerability: Embrace vulnerability by sharing your feelings and unspoken fears with a welcoming attitude.
Space (Creating This Space): Dedicate time to discuss sex and its frequency.
These three elements are not easy to achieve because they require self-work, self-reflection, and honest and vulnerable communication.
If you feel that your relationship is struggling with one or all of these elements, it's an indicator that it's time to seek counseling to unlock communication in the relationship.
Conclusion
Effective communication about sensitive topics like sex requires intentionality and commitment from both partners.
By setting aside dedicated time, establishing clear intentions, and delivering one key message at a time, couples can navigate these discussions with clarity and purpose.
Additionally, embracing vulnerability, maintaining a welcoming attitude, and creating space for open dialogue are essential for fostering understanding and connection.
While achieving these elements may be challenging, they are crucial for nurturing a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
If you find that your relationship is struggling in any of these areas, seeking professional guidance can provide valuable support in overcoming communication barriers and strengthening your bond.
Hello I'm new to this, me and my partner are trying to conceive, I had my period and I just did a Ovulation test on premom app and the premom says the I'm on Peak today, what should u think I should do?
ok then we do he isnat work right now we sex tonigh
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Artavia
10 Nov 2022
My period was late this month. I had intercourse with my partner and started bleeding a little. No cramps or pain. It lasted over 4 days with only the need for a couple panty liners. I tested and it was negative. Any advice on why? Should I test again soon ?
If that was implantation it could take a few days to a week to build up the HCG. I would wait longer and test again in 3-5 days.
Goodluck GodBless Babydust ❤️
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Artavia
thank you ❤️
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Cassandra
12 Aug 2022
Since I have a baby girl now I do want want to have sex with my husband.. my body hurts I always feel bed. Anyone goin with this.. just my body is different now I do not feel like doin nothing sexual. Same time I feel like being a good girlfriend
It maybe to avoid issues with their wives. Communicating to another women , for any reason, maybe a problem. To avoid that problem they just give you their wives email address. Also most men are really bad at remembering dates that aren’t significant to them. The mamas are going to be the ones to make sure they rsvp and that the child makes it to the party, Husbands are waiting on wives to tell them where and when they need to be somewhere.
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Maya
I agree 100% on the husbands waiting on wives to tell them where and when to be somewhere lol.
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momandbaby
21 Nov 2021
I'm so sad ladies, my partner is cheating on me because I'm having trouble conceiving with him! Anyway, I'm already a mom of a 6 years old girl but with my ex-husband. what should i do?
You having trouble conceiving does not give him the right to cheat it’s either he stand by 100 percent as your partner or leave you alone …. That’s not fair to you ….
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Eliany
Please leave him you can do much better. Not worth your time. There’s no reasons for him to do such thing. Always love yourself and daughter first.
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