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12 Mar 2024

Painful intercourse after birth: is it normal?

After giving birth, sex may be a little painful or uncomfortable. Don't panic, this is perfectly normal!

  • The majority of women who have just given birth experience pain in the vagina during their first intercourse.
  • Your vagina is less flexible after giving birth.
  • The longer you go without intercourse, the more likely you are to experience pain.
  • The pain can be physiological, but it can also be related to the pressure you put on yourself to have sex. Try to relax and go for caresses or massages at first, it's a great way to start!
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Amber
14 Jun 2023

Sex after birth. I have birth at 28 weeks and I finally stopped bleeding and having discharge. She is 4 weeks. Would my body have already healed because I didn’t go to term?

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Lydia Zavala
No ur body still needs time to heal. That’s why you wait the full six weeks. But since you are not fully healed yet then it could be Lochia. Which is just a mucusy discharge you get after you stop bleeding. It’s still your body’s way of healing. Even if you didn’t go full term you still have a wound from where your baby and placenta was and your body needs time to adjust back.
14 Jun 2023

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Joyce
28 May 2023

So does sex after birth hurt ? Some people say it’s like loosing your virginity again and I haven’t had that in years so someone please let me know 🤣😭

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Tymerra
Well with me I couldn’t wait the six week but yes when I did it it hurt
28 May 2023

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Sheyenne
For me it hurt every time for about at least 5 times but then it got better I did tear but not that bad I had sex 6 weeks after birth, I lot of people say it hurts and I lot say it doesn’t but so many people have the opposite opinion about a lot
28 May 2023

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Jasmine
16 May 2023

It’s been since early February that I have had sex & n i forgot how bad sex after child birth hurts 🫠even thoe I had a c section my everything hurts down to my damn toes 😂watch we b back in labor n delivery again 2024

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Blocked user
Lmaooo girl I felt this we just had her the 17th of April and he been shooting the club up for the last two weeks 😮‍💨 they told us we will be back lmaooo
16 May 2023

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Aleesha
10 Jan 2023

Ok Im in a fresh new relationship after a 21 year marriage. So my boyfriend is the biggest IV ever been with. Now after 2 an half months been together, it's kinda painful having sex but once we start pain gos away. I'm not on any birth control, an we had sex when I was ovulating. An I'm so post to start in 5 days I haven't had any pms system.

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Alexandra
I have the same pain issue and it goes away after a minute but I think he is just bigger then what I’ve had and that is what is causing it
10 Jan 2023

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Nevaeh
2 Jan 2023

Is it normal for cramps during the first period after birth to be more painful than they were before pregnancy?

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🌀⚡KERI⚡🌀
19 Dec 2022

This is sad ..... We go threw hell during pregnancy and after ..... I am suffering with bad cramping with the after birth period, painful hemorrhoids and hurting rock hard boobs ..... Ugh 😭😭😫😫

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Patricia
After hurt worse than delivery
19 Dec 2022

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Krys
The aftermath is so terrible. Just as miserable. I have all of those things too except hemorrhoids. I also have very bad trapped gas from the c section. Lord the recovery is rough
19 Dec 2022

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Ericka
9 Sep 2022

Natural birth feels like trying to pass a big 💩. It’s the after birth that’s painful and uncomfortable to me

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Bri
Postpartum recovery is what scares me.. I'm super nervous about it
9 Sep 2022

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Ericka
You just have to try and free your mind. I had all the nurses singing to my pandora
9 Sep 2022

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Kali
24 Jul 2022

32 weeks and I’m having strong painful contractions after sex, I can even talk during them it hurts so bad and I’ve had 6 in the past 20 minutes? Can sex cause this? What do I do, I’ve tried switching positions, warm bath and water so far

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Noel
It can happen. It sounds like some type of Braxton hicks from orgasm and hormones reacting... try to take it easy and relax... as long as your water didn't break you should be good.
24 Jul 2022

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Kali
Sex lasted about 5 seconds bc the pain started as soon as we started so I didn’t even get that far into it
24 Jul 2022

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🍃🌿Lori🍁🍄
21 Jul 2022

Ok mamas like any other first time mom I’ve got some big questions!! If you delivered vaginally, how has that impacted sex after you healed? What did your partners think? Did it feel different for you? How long did you wait and was it painful the first time after birth? Sincerely, a young first time mommy. #firsttimemom #advice

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Bri
First timer here too, would love to know this info as well!
21 Jul 2022

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LadyG
Not sure what my husband thought, but it did feel different for me felt like I was tighter than usual. But I waited like 3mths or more due to my traumatic experience. I was in a depressed 😔 time not trying to bring fear but I lost my baby due to a placenta abruption at 28 wks and delivered vaginally.
21 Jul 2022

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Emily
30 May 2022

WARNING SENSITIVE TOPIC: SEX. Looking for advice or share your experiences if you are comfortable. My husband I had sex after not having it the past 3 weeks. I'm almost 31 weeks. Last time it was extremely painful but he wanted to to try it so I thought I would give it a shot. It was extremely painful. Literally feels like my cervix is being pulled and stretched. We even used lube thinking maybe it would help (which it didn't). No wonder they say sex induces labor. Not sure how I'm gonna go another 9 weeks. I also want to make my husband happy. Would love to hear how you are coping especially if your not having sex anymore. I'm really worried about how our sex life is gonna change after baby and also if sex will be enjoyable or how much it changes after you have given birth. I'm worried and would love to hear from you mama's.

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Cornelia
Because of some issues with placenta previa and bleeding my boyfriend and I switched to focusing on foreplay and oral and i know it kept him satisfied, I miss vaginal but also If you are open to it try anal ? Just a thought , I actually got to where I enjoyed it although at 31 weeks the last time we did it it was pretty uncomfortable for me... Idk it's rough for sure but I just keep thinking this won't last forever and we will be able to resume normal activity sooner than later , hang in there girl!!! ❤️
30 May 2022

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Tyyyyy
My experience with my first i couldn’t have sex like u said it was painful and uncomfortable so I just never did it until after I had the bby once bby was here it was kinda painful and uncomfortable the first few times we tried because of how tight it was😭 but after the few times it went back to normal this go round I’ve actually been able to have sex all the way up until now
30 May 2022

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