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12 Mar 2024

Pregnancy and low libido: what to do?

Since you've been pregnant, your emotions have been playing tricks on you—not to mention your sex drive! Your sex drive might be high, low, or all the way gone.

  • The first thing to do when your sex drive is low during pregnancy is to let go of your guilt—you are not responsible for the mood swings your hormones are causing you!
  • The second thing to do is to talk to your partner about it. Not only will it make you feel better, but it will also help them understand what you're going through, and allow them to better support you.

If you feel that this is creating problems in your relationship, talk to a professional.

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Zara
9 Feb 2024

I know this may be TMI, but hey, we are all women here. Throughout my pregnancy, I kept hearing about how some women experience a significant increase in their sex drive. Surprisingly, I found myself on the opposite end of the spectrum. Despite the initial excitement, given that my libido wasn't always the highest, I'm now 38 weeks, almost 39 weeks along, and I've noticed that there are only certain days when I even feel like being touched, let alone engaging in anything sexual. I'm curious, is anyone else going through this, or is it just me? Is this a normal variation in pregnancy experiences?

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Jenny
Completely normal. This was me. I wasn’t on it at all
9 Feb 2024

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Jayauna
I just wanna be left alone and have been like this since 6 months my pregnancy is almost over and I’m just excited to return to my sweet loving hardheaded self💕
9 Feb 2024

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Danette
1 Jun 2023

I know they said wait 6 weeks before putting anything in your hoohaa, but the libido is coming on strong. Question to women who needed stitches from birth, how long did you wait and did it hurt? I'm impatient to start having sex again but I'm still tender enough down there that I'm worried how painful it's going to be.

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Maria
For me I waited 40 days until got sex again and yes it's a little bit painful well for me was I dont know about other moms
1 Jun 2023

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♥️Maysons Momma♥️
I waited 4 weeks maybe 3 lol
1 Jun 2023

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Claire
9 May 2023

Have any of y’all gone from having a real high sex drive to basically a nonexistent one? Like to the point I don’t even want to masturbate and haven’t since becoming pregnant. How do I increase my libido I feel terrible for my man because I don’t want to do anything and have been neglecting him 😞😔 #sex #libido #sexwhilepregnant

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Sarah
Yup! And I I know exactly how you feel. Since finding out I was pregnant, I’ve only given it to my husband twice :(
9 May 2023

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Claire
Same here!! I just don’t know what to do to help raise it 😔
9 May 2023

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katy
6 Jan 2023

I'm 7 days PP...my hormones are raging and my libido came back fairly quickly. I'm obviously not going to do anything right now since it's still way too soon and I'm still bleeding, but I was thinking next weekend to have a little 👅 fun with my husband. Do you think 2 weeks PP is still too soon if it's strictly outer course, he wouldn't even put his tongue near my actual vagina, just clitiros, or do you think I'd be fine?? The doctor says 6 weeks even for that, but they have to say that to cover their butts...

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Mae
I would say wait at least the 3 weeks for bleeding and stuff that’s when we started but I didn’t have any tearing or anything and it still hurt a bit for me, cuz that’s when we started again, the six weeks mark for me at least seemed unnecessary because of everything, I felt fine by 4 weeks or so, obviously the cervix is still super sensitive, but I think it prolly will be for a while
6 Jan 2023

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katy
the thing is I have no pain at all anymore and I had no tearing either so no stitches required
6 Jan 2023

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Sheriz
25 Nov 2022

I talked to one of my girlfriends who just had her baby that said she also had this experience…but I’m curious to see if anyone else’s libido has been low during their pregnancy?

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Hannah
During and a MAJOR drop after birth. Like no libido at all
25 Nov 2022

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Sheriz
Wow, how long after birth you think?😳
25 Nov 2022

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Ashley
16 Aug 2022

I have all the symptoms of ovulation the slippery egg white discharge the increased libido right hip and side pain but a negative ovulation test idk what to think I’m wondering if I’m out this month

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kari
Is this posative
16 Aug 2022

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Ashley
Finally actually hit peak today this is positive
16 Aug 2022

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Kendia
13 Aug 2022

Is anybody else experiencing having a super low libido? Like the thought of having sex with my boyfriend rn makes me nauseous & I feel like I just can’t do it but I feel so bad bc I know this is really hard for him 🥴 I want to be able to be intimate with him but I just can’t bring myself to really do it.

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Alexus
this was me but now thats all i wanna do lmaooo 😭🤣🤣🤣
13 Aug 2022

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Kendia
girl I hope mine come back too cus we both so over it 😭
13 Aug 2022

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Shannon
10 Aug 2022

*TW- MENTIONS OF SEX AND BODILY FLUID!!!* (just forewarning people before they read on) TMI moment ladies, but just curious. So I am 32W+3 and I had intercourse for the first time in a couple of months, I have a low sexual libido so it isn’t uncommon for me to go a while without intercourse, and now I am really sore down there. We did try a new position so it may be that but I was just curious if any of you ladies have experienced painful intercourse during your 3rd trimester? It’s not painful to the point that I am worried just painful when I go to the bathroom or if my body releases quite a bit of discharge. And it’s more of just an uncomfortable feeling, not so much pain.

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Melissa
Is it like burning?
10 Aug 2022

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Shamra
2 Aug 2022

Anyone have a decreased libido during pregnancy? Is this normal? This is my 3rd pregnancy and I've never felt like this before..I kinda hate it.. #help #sex #libido

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Kierra
Yes .. it’s always happens to me .. uninterested asf.
2 Aug 2022

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Shamra
It really sucks..my husband is a very understanding person so he knows it not personal but it's getting to him, I know it is. He wants to be wanted which I totally understand but I just don't have it..and I'm not a "fake it" kinda person. He was my 1st and only (our 10 yr marriage anniversary is the year and have 2 other kids) and this is a new experience for us.. I for one did not expect from pregnancy.. any suggestions? I feel like I'm pushing him away and I'm not meaning 2😥..
2 Aug 2022

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Tashi
25 May 2022

So I went to the store pharmacy to buy the libido capsules well that’s gonna have to wait lol a little expensive I was told to take prenatal meds that had folic acid ahhhh I want my lil one

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meara
Try mucinex
25 May 2022

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Tashi
Which ones
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