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2 Apr 2024

How to tell my kid(s) I’m pregnant?

How to Tell Your Kid You're Pregnant: An Age-by-Age Guide
Pregnancy is a transformative journey filled with challenges and surprises.
Sharing the news of a new sibling with your firstborn might bring excitement and joy, yet reactions can vary widely.
This article explores how to announce a pregnancy to your child, focusing on the impact on their reactions and providing practical advice for expectant mothers.
Children's responses can change; they might not cope as adults do, shifting from happy to anxious swiftly. Initially, they may rejoice at the news, only to later grasp the extent of changes this arrival might entail. Recognizing the importance of this and committing to long-term communication is crucial.
Spotlight on Symptoms/Signs
Understanding your firstborn's reaction to a new sibling involves considering their age and temperament. Reactions range from excitement to confusion or jealousy, influenced by the upcoming changes in their life.
Short-term Tips
Navigating Toddler Turbulence:
  • Keep the announcement simple and age-appropriate for toddlers.
  • Use the correct terminology and wait until you start showing to share the news, aiding their understanding.
  • Be ready for questions and use tools like dolls to explain the new sibling's arrival.
Long-term Strategy
Supporting Preschooler Curiosity:
  • Preschoolers, being naturally curious, will have many questions. Answer honestly but simply, and use books about becoming a big sibling as a resource.
  • Their emotions may fluctuate; provide a safe space for expression.
Engaging School-Aged Children:
  • Older children may have more complex emotions. Acknowledge their feelings and involve them in preparations for the new baby.
  • Balance involvement with ensuring the baby doesn't become the sole focus.
Involvement in Choices:
  • Let them help choose items for the baby, valuing their opinions on sibling-related decisions.
Your Stories
Sarah, 30, Mom of One: "When I told my three-year-old about my pregnancy, his simple 'But why?' reminded me that kids process this news in their own way. After explaining and showing him a sonogram, his curiosity was satisfied, for the moment. Each child's reaction is unique."
Q&As
  • Q: When should I tell my child about the pregnancy?
  • Q: How do I handle my preschooler's tough questions about the baby?
  • Q: My older child is anxious about the changes. What should I do?
In conclusion, announcing a pregnancy to your firstborn is a unique experience filled with varied reactions. Understanding their emotional shifts and using age-appropriate strategies can facilitate a smoother transition to expanding your family. Embracing each child's unique response is key to fostering a loving sibling bond.
Sally El Sibahi
Psychologist Therapist
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Auriana
11 Feb 2024

i just found out i’m pregnant i got early responses. I’m 16 and I have no idea how I’m gonna tell my parents that’s main thing I’m concerned about right now. I know I’m going to keep it. I just don’t know how to tell my parents some one please help me.

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Tierney
It's best to, so you can get prenatal care early
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Mandy
I’m 16 and 24 weeks 5 days and I told my parents when I was 8 weeks because I was too scared too tell them earlier, they were really supportive and excited to be grandparents. All parents are different but there are people out there who will support you mama💕
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Mia
28 Jan 2024

im 16yrs old & 5wks pregnant (im not w/ the father) .. how do i tell my family? do i tell my family or no? i move out on my own in august so do i simply hide it until i’m on my own or do i tell them? idk who to come to so i figured i’d get advice here

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Toni
Honey tell your family. Im 35 years old expecting my 4th baby. I couldn’t do this without my husband and family support. You would be due in September, you would need prenatal care. You don’t want something to go wrong and face that alone if you don’t have to. Not sure of your family history, but I would tell them.
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Abby
I would tell them.. give them a chance to react justly.. good or bad.. but remember don’t reflect there reactions on yourself ultimately you are your own person you make your own choices
27 Mar 2024

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Isabella
25 Dec 2023

Can anymore give me advice about how to tell my parents that I am pregnant. It’s my first time and I’m really nervous.

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Nybria
How old are you if you don’t mind me asking
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Isabella
18 and recently moved out with my boyfriend.
27 Mar 2024

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Blocked user
23 Dec 2023

I decided to check my cervix last night. I have an incomplete cervix. I plan to go to the er because it can be fixed. But my parents are coming in and idk how to tell them I’m pregnant and I’m possibly gonna lose the baby…. I can’t even tell my husband. I haven’t told anybody….

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Dessie💕
So with incompetent cervix they don’t usually start checking the cervix for length till about 12 weeks I have incompetent cervix as well so next pregnancy they’ll stitch my cervix at 12 weeks and do checks every 2 weeks
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Blocked user
So everything might be okay?
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Angelique
16 Oct 2023

I’m 2 months pregnant with my first kid I’m 21 years old and gonna be a single mom my family is only supportive when I do things exactly how the want me to. Wish me luck..

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Jurnee
U got this mamas
27 Mar 2024

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Tampa
Look to support groups nobody should have to deal with pressure or do it on your own
27 Mar 2024

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Tina
24 Oct 2022

so I wrote my child’s father, aunt a letter to explain how i’m pregnant by him etc & he don’t wanna see bout his kid, all she did was show him/tell him about it. didn’t even call me & ask me my side of the story. but ok. lol I give up.

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Caniyaa
Girl fuck them people it’s all about you and the baby if they can’t see that leave them where they stand
27 Mar 2024

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Tina
yes ma’am!!! 🫡😂 thank you for this!
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Blocked user
18 Aug 2022

So I haven’t told my 2 oldest I’m pregnant…14 and 8 lol I’m not goin to tell my 8 year old until we get our own place which is suppose to be very soon but I’m trippin and really don’t kno how to tell my daughter lol

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27 Mar 2024

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Sara
I have an 18 and 8 yr old both boys in 8 weeks and im feeling the same way I don’t no how to tell them
27 Mar 2024

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Jamaya
13 Jul 2022

so i’m currently in a situation where my mom knows i’m pregnant but my dad doesn’t know , i’m kinda scared to tell him but i don’t know how to tell him. what should i do ?😭

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Sonia
Have ur mom tell him...
27 Mar 2024

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Jamaya
that was the plan but since they don’t mess with each other like that , she refuses to even have communication with him.
27 Mar 2024

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Caitlyn
13 Jun 2022

I'm pregnant with my fourth kid and my due date is December 23rd. I'm currently 12 weeks pregnant. And I'm so moody like bad. I'm going to talk to my doctor about it tomorrow.

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kaydie
I hope it gets better for you girl!
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Caitlyn
thank you. Me too.
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Chloe Cameron
26 Apr 2022

Sooo how do you guys tell your families you’re pregnant if you think they are going to be disappointed? This is my first pregnancy, I’m 19 & 13 weeks… I’m scared they are going to judge me I’m not sure how or when to tell them. HELP!!!!

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Summer
Congratulations first off!! I’m also 13 weeks! The first person I told was my mom and I told her when I first found out I was 4 weeks so I was still very early. I thought it was going to be tough telling my mom at first but she was happy once we started talking about it. The rest of my family I announced it on Facebook and everyone was happy for me and congratulating me
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mackenzie
I’m 19 as well and I thought my mom was gonna yell and scream but in fact she was super excited I was in shock at her reaction but overall it doesn’t matter what your family thinks if they don’t accept it you can cut them off. If they want this baby to be apart of their life they’re gonna have to accept it. All babies are a blessing just remember that.🤍🤍
27 Mar 2024

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